I want to concentrate on photos. Unless an abuser is dealing with a really disreputable photo processor or develop their own photos, they don't use negative film. Videos, Polaroid film and now
electronic digital cameras are a boon to them as there is no photo processing.

That said, Now The Plan:

Get all the kids together so you can sort through photographs. Have photos of family members, ancestors, realtives, good times, pictures of the kids with friends, ones of family outings and talk about the good times. Work with the kids to put together one or more family albums. Talk about the good memories each of the photos represents. You can do this over several sesions as small children
have short attention spans.

Now with the album(s) complete spend some more good quality time with your children. Pick a day of the week when you will be free and able to spend time together without interruption. Set it up and stick to the time. It could be the weekend in the afternoon when the two of you will be alone. I recommend you do some of this alone with each child as it will become your SPECIAL time together.

Maybe once a month, pull out the album. Go through it with the child. Pick random photos and talk with your child about the memories concerning that particular photo. It might be of a favorite relative who is making good in the world and talk about what that person is doing now. It might be about the child's birthday and the special present they received, what funny things happened during the party or any other things which took place.

Watch your child as you talk about different persons in the photos. Your child may show some dislike for an individual, activity or place depicted. Question your child about this dislike. You may find out
they don't like the sport they are playing, or you may find out the coach is making your child uncomfortable through unwanted advances.

Talk to your child about photos and how they help us to remember important times. Talk about how they now have a life outside the family in school, boy scouts, brownies, sports, and any other activity
they may be involved in regularly. Let them know you want to be part of those areas in their lives. You want to be able to share those memories as well.

Let them know there will be times photos will be taken of them when they are involved in those other activities. Explain how important it is to you and the rest of the family to INCLUDE those photos in the
album. Let them know you will get copies of those photos and have the child tell the story behind the photo and have the honor of placing it in the family album. Inform them it is very important to
you to know EVERY time a photo is taken of them so you may get a copy of it.

When your child tells you a photo has been taken, calmly find out who has taken it. Also find out the purpose for the picture. It may be a class photo posted on the bulletin board. It may be an action shot
of PeeWee Football. It may have been taken for any number of reasons which are legitimate.

Here is YOUR action part. Go to the person who took the photo and ask to see it. Anyone taking legitimate photos will show you immediately. At this point, ask if you can get a copy of the photo for
your album. Remember you are keeping a promise to your child. The child will be able to display the picture to the family, talk about the circumstances surrounding it and have the pleasure of putting
it in the family album.

If the person won't show you the photo, go to their superior. Explain your purpose and the lack of cooperation calmly. Don't take NO for an answer. Keep going until you get your answers and see the
picture.

This is a method you can use when your child is young. That may be around the ages of 5 to 8 years old. Of course, you know your child better than I and may be able to start at a younger age. If you
are able to establish this kind of relationship at this age it is very likely your child will grow up to be open in discussions with you about many things..